\"Can count but be diligent, thin but love.\" To be familiar with etiquette, diligent in giving gifts to guests, do not attach too much importance to the value of gifts, but should focus on affection.
To entertain guests to understand the etiquette should also be diligent in the ceremony, received gifts do not use the gift to measure friendship, but to value the affection.
This sentence comes from the \"He family instruction\" : Sima Wen Gong said: My life clothes take shelter from cold, food take full belly, also dare not take the dirty to correct the vulgar dry name, but follow my nature only. He also said: my family will be a number of guests and courtesy, thin things and love.